By signing up for this program you’ve made the first step towards changing aggressive behavior of your child, and it’s not a one-day fix! We understand, however, that you need help right away. We also understand how you feel when dealing with an angry and aggressive child. A key reason many parents have trouble dealing …
We will help you understand what happens when your child shows aggression
You’ve learned how your behavior feeds your child behavior; You’ve learned the tools to better manage your response right in the moment; You discovered the 4-Step Better Way to React Please continue to practice these tools!
A lot of parents don’t realize is that some kids become aggressive because of lack of sleep, being hungry or overwhelmed. Most parents reported to us that they struggle with their child’s bedtime routine and putting child to bed takes over an hour or more.
So, in this session we will work on turning difficult bedtime routine into a sharing and bonding time. We will spend 10 minutes each night with the child by giving him the most needed undivided positive attention. It will be precious and delicious 10 minutes when we get rid of all phones, computers, and other distractions, and spend this time connecting and bonding. During this time we will read the book he chooses, chat a bit and cuddle. We’ll do it either when the child is already in bed or in a comfortable place near his bed. Let’s dim the lights and speak in a soft calm voice.
So in this session we will help you establish a predictable simple routine that works for kids and adults
The first sessions showed how to manage your reactions to your child’s negative behaviors. You’ve learned the 4-Step Better Way to React. You’ve learned and have been practicing to be an outstanding role model to your child by showing him what to do when you are angry. Instead of lecturing, yelling or punishing the child, …
You will learn an innovative, effective and universal time-out technique.
As you’ve learned to help yourself when anger is intense and red-hot, you are now ready to help your child to diffuse and re-channel his anger.
We will accomplish this:
You’ve done an amazing job so far! You’ve mastered your ability to change your reactions to your child’s negative behaviors. You’ve improved your ability to recognize your own anger and contain it. You’ve learned how to re-channel your anger in an effective and appropriate way. You taught your child to recognize his anger and gave …
During this session, you will learn to give yourself a credit for every new skill you’ve learned, for every little step you take towards your goal – to create a safe and happy environment at home. You will learn to give credit to your child for every good deed, for every fair attempt to become a better listener and a friendlier person. You will learn to use positive reinforcement and ways that prevent physically aggressive behaviors by focusing your child on his positive behaviors.
We will help you recognize your child’s positive behaviors and reinforce them
In the last session you’ve mastered your ability to change your reactions to help prevent your child’s angry outbursts by focusing your attention on his positive behaviors. Also, you’ve mastered the use of positive reinforcement – by promptly responding to every positive behavior, stating exactly what your child did right. Keep practicing these important skills
In this session you will learn how to establish a clear “NO HITTING” rule. You will make a verbal and written contract with the child.
You will continue to strengthen and enhance the use of positive reinforcement, by teaching your child that positive behaviors bring good consequences and negative behaviors do not. You will teach your child that he is the one who makes right or wrong decisions and will have to accept consequences. You will learn to empower our child to make right decisions.
You will establish the desirable “NO HITTING” behavior, and reinforce it by using a contract.
In your last session you’re learned how to create a contract with your child. You and your child also practiced all the skills you’ve learned so far in this program. You are doing great!!!
During this session you will continue working on the “NO HITTING” rule and will further support positive reinforcement by using a behavior rewards chart.
You will continue to strengthen and enhance the use of positive reinforcement, by teaching your child that positive behaviors bring good consequences and negative behaviors do not. You will teach your child that he is the one who makes right or wrong decisions and will need to be able to accept consequences. You will learn to empower him to make the right decisions.
You will establish the desirable behavior “NO HITTING”, and reinforce it by using a behavioral rewards chart.
You’ve developed a behavior reward chart and remembered to put a sticker or a smiley face every time your child was successful at a task. You remembered to praise him in front of the family members and reprimand him privately. You did a great job by being consistent! Continue to practice these important skills. Mastering …
This session fill focus on continued work on the “NO HITTING” rule. You will work on teaching the child to identify and talk about his feelings; you will also work on teaching him to be more empathetic to other people’s feelings.
You will teach your child to identify and talk about feelings by using yourself as an example. Every time you have a powerful feeling, share your experience with your child by saying, “I am happy, because the weather is good and we are going to the park. I am sad, because our dog hurt his paw. I am angry, because my favorite shirt got ripped” etc. Teach your child to match people’s facial expressions and their feelings.
During the last few sessions you’ve learned how to avoid power struggles and how to de-escalate conflicts. You’ve mastered your ability to manage your own anger and frustration. You’ve learned to be on a look out for important physical factors that contribute to child’s physically aggressive behaviors – most often the child becomes physically aggressive …
In this session you will learn to identify your child’s triggers (events or situations that precede an aggressive outburst) and learn to eliminate them when possible. You will also work on controlling potentially volatile situations and preventing your child’s physically aggressive behaviors from happening.
You will learn to pay attention to 3 most common triggers in kids:
You’ve learned how to predict potentially volatile situations and decrease or eliminate the triggers; you’ve mastered your ability to be reasonable, consistent, and fair.
You will work on teaching your child additional outlets for expressing his anger in a non-violent way.
He has already been equipped with a handful of outlets: you’ve taught him to use a time-out and breathing techniques, positive imagery, identify his feelings and use his words. These are a terrific bunch of skills! Keep using and practicing these important skills. In this session we will concentrate on more outlets for anger, so your child’s toolbox is complete!
You will explore and identify your child’s unique preferences on calming down activities, model them and integrate them into his routine.
You’ve learned which outlets for anger work best for your child by testing various techniques. Also, you’ve learned to decrease confrontations by avoiding saying “no” as much as possible.
You will work on teaching your child age-appropriate problem-solving skills. Very often the child becomes physically aggressive in the absence of adequate problem-solving skills, especially with other children. Teaching age-appropriate conflict resolution skills will improve your child’s impulse control, decrease and later eliminate his needs to achieve his goals by fighting.
We will teach you to discuss various situations with your child and empower him to come up with different socially appropriate behaviors in difficult situations.
You’ve taught your child various problem-solving skills, assertive behaviors, use of “I-statements”, and a better ability to cooperate with peers.
You will work on establishing a positive working relationship with your child’s teacher or a day care provider. You will mainstream and consolidate your joined efforts to assure your child’s success.
Sometimes your child behaves aggressively at home with you or the siblings but behaves well at school. Other times he is ready to please you at home but is aggressive with his peers at the daycare. There are children who are angry in more than one setting. Whatever your situation is, it is very important to establish a good relationship with your child’s daycare center or school.
We will teach you how to approach your child’s teacher and create a solid partnership.
You’ve established a solid connection with your child’s teacher and encouraged caregivers to join you in focusing more on your child’s positive behaviors. You’ve worked on mainstreaming home and school efforts into making a seamless continuum, giving your child a sense of security and consistency, so the aggressive behaviors stop completely in both settings.
You will work on increasing your involvement with your child’s activities and mastering empathetic listening.
Sometimes, your child behaves aggressively at home and at school when he feels ignored, threatened, or lacks problem-solving skills. You will work on further mastering your relationship with the child, improving his self-esteem by empathetic listening.
We will teach you to master other routines and giving your child a sense that he is heard and understood.