As parents, we want our children to succeed at everything and that includes doing homework the best that they can. But often homework time turns into a battlefield. The ever-increasing demands from school put a lot of pressure not only on kids but on parents as well.
Your child should know what’s expected from him. He will benefit from having a dedicated place for homework and reading activities. Also, discuss and agree on which assignments get done first (see homework checklist parenting tip below) and which get done afterwards together with your child. Consider using a timer to keep your child focused on a task.
Keep your kid’s workspace free of toys and distractions. The room has to be well lit and quiet and that means no TV, radio, or phone calls while it’s homework time. You want to limit your child’s opportunities for distractions.
If your kid feels frustrated with doing homework, avoid negative statements such as “How can you not get that?” or “I can’t believe it takes you this long to do such a simple assignment!” but rather say “You’re right, it looks like a lot of work,” “Give it a try and we will check it together after you’re done.”
You are your child’s role model. She is learning from you on how to deal with frustration and difficult emotions. So whenever you feel the frustration and emotions building, just leave the room and give yourself time to calm down. Take a few deep breaths, count down from 10, splash cold water on your face – whatever helps you to cool off.
Most kids benefit from short breaks while doing homework. Agree with your child on how many breaks she can take and what she can do for the duration of her time off. Some kids enjoy active breaks such as jumping jacks or running around, others enjoy quieter rest, such as listening to music.
Teach your child to write out all the things he needs to do for the day in a homework checklist. Crossing things off the list is not only rewarding but also keeps him on track of what’s still outstanding.
Homework is your child’s responsibility, not yours. Encourage independence and creativity during homework. However, when your child asks for help, provide assistance but don’t give answers.
Your kids need to know that after a job well done they can have their TV or electronics time, a play date with a friend, or a fun activity.
Praise your child for a job well done or for completing homework independently. The priority should always be to establish and keep up positive and supportive relationship with your child.
Let the teacher know if your child’s struggling with a particular subject or a unit learned. A small note will let the teacher know to offer extra help on that subject.
Which other strategies work for your and your child? Share below!
Julia Berger is a mom of 2, certified positive discipline parent educator and a founder of Everyday Parenting. If you catch yourself yelling at your kids or struggling with your child’s anger, aggression or defiance, try our interactive, guided and digital Everyday Parenting Program. It’s based on the principals of positive parenting and will help you achieve successful results in as little as 4 weeks! So get the results you’ve been looking for, START you risk-free trial now!Back to blog list