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Child Behavior Help: Identifying and eliminating anger triggers

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Most kids struggle with transitions (adults do too!). Predictable routines make transitions easier.

Transitions can spark child’s anger, defiance and aggression.  Most transitions (leaving park, finishing a play-date, switching off computer game) will be way less frustrating when the child knows the rules, knows you will be consistent supervising him, and he will have some power following the rules. Timers and 3-minute hourglasses are very helpful to remind your child that he will need to stop an activity and make the transition. Experiment to see what your child responds better to: timer, hourglass, or just watching time on the house clock.

Be calm and respectful in asking your child to finish his play activities. Wait a little bit if your child is about to finish building his castle or feeding his teddy. If the child struggles with wrapping up, get involved by asking engaging questions such as: “Who lives in this castle? Do you want to save it or make a picture before you take it apart? Do you want to make a picture yourself?”

 

Scenario:

You allow 30 minutes of TV time. At the end, you kid refuses to switch it off, hides remote control, bargains, whines, pleads, and then becomes increasingly angry.

 

What to do:

  • Approach the child and remind him: “In 5 minutes, your show will be over. You will switch off TV and start your homework”.
  • Approach the child shortly before 5 minutes run out, softly remind him that time is almost up, wait until the show is over and ask whether he wants to switch it off all by himself or he wants you to switch it off. This way you allow him some decision-making and autonomy.
  • Ask what was most fun in this show.

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Written by Madlena Rozenblyum, LCSW-R. Madlena is a licensed psychotherapist and a parenting expert. She is also a published author, speaker and a passionate believer in the power of positive parenting. Madlena is a principal expert and an author of a new parenting program “Parenting Solutions: Reducing Child’s Anger and Aggression” at Everyday Parenting. This program is based on the principals of positive parenting and will help you achieve successful results in as little as 4 weeks! Get the results you’ve been looking for, START you risk-free trial now!

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